What 2020 Has Taught me (so far)

Grab a drink and let’s chat. It’s been a while.


Be prepared, stay ready for anything. Back a few years now, when Atlanta, Georgia had its famous snow storm that shut down the city, I found myself part of that. My husband and I had driven my kids to Chicago to spend a month with my Mom while we packed our home in Georgia in preparation for our move to Texas. As soon as we crossed into Georgia it began to snow and we had no idea what lay ahead of us an hour or so up the road. The storm completely shut the city down. At 3 in the morning it looked like five o’clock traffic. We had three vehicle accidents and slept in our car outside of a gas station. I remember being cold and crying, because I was so afraid. I told myself that night that I’d make emergency kits so that when crap hits the fan we’d be ready. Fast forward to now, 2020, and I still hadn’t done that, though I’m in the process now. The world is crazy and people freak out when they are afraid. 2020 has definitely taught me to always be prepared. It’s okay to have a stock pile, buy a little extra and stash it away for later-you never know when the store will go days without being able to stock up on something again!

Never underestimate Light & Fluffy. I am taking place in ChickLitAthon, which is a month long readathon hosted by Sophie from All Things Equilateral over on Youtube and I’m making it a lifestyle movement all month long. Everyday I’m trying to consume books, podcasts, movies-something entertaining that gives me Chicklit vibes. So far I have been successful and let me tell you! It’s been wonderful and just what I need. I think what constitutes Chicklit is very broad but for me personally, I consider it girl stories and making it a point everyday to consume girl stories has 100% put more sunshine in my days. Never underestimate or apologize needing to consume what makes you feel good.

Take my meds and journal more; both are so good for my depression.

It’s okay to take a bath in the middle of the day just to relax and listen to a podcast. Absolutely okay.

There’s nothing wrong with dinners that consist of leftovers and frozen foods from the freezer. Cut yourself some slack; every night doesn’t have to have this huge meal you slaved over all day.

It’s okay to treat yourself to a night of binging the shows on your DVR. They have to get watched eventually; stop putting everything off for another day. Take advantage of now.

No matter your age, get on the trampoline with the kids! It is still fun and it will make them so happy to see you having fun on something they love. You don’t have to be in adult mode all the time. Treat yourself to fun that takes you back to summer days of your own childhood. For those few moments you can pretend to be a kid again with no worries-sometimes its the escape you need.



Sunday Coffee

Hello there Friends. I hope all is well with you today. We have made it to another Sunday and another month is coming to a close. Seriously, where did September go? I am so excited to catch up with you. I hope you have a nice warm cup of coffee or tea..let’s chat.


This past week I was tasked to watch people pee in a cup. Despite all of the different shades of urine I won’t be able to get out of my head now, it turned out to be a really chill week. Surprisingly, it wasn’t as busy as expected, so I was able to get quite a bit of reading done.

Towards the end of the week, I got a surprise. Two of my old co-workers showed up while doing an escort. I can’t even express how happy I was to see them. I am at a new duty station now, only 30 minutes away, but feels like a state over. I never get to see my old crew like I’d like to. I seriously wanted to cry. Seeing them bought to the surface the feeling of being alone, that I’ve felt since moving. For some reason, it is really difficult for me to open up myself and allow myself to connect with people where I am now. It sounds bratty, but I miss my friends.  I had it good there for a while, and I feel like I didn’t appreciate it enough when I had it.

I don’t expect to meet my new best friend, but I have got to give people a chance. My therapist is constantly reminding me that I need to watch how I talk to myself. If I continue to tell myself things like, “it’s not worth it, don’t let them in,” then I won’t ever have those connections and who knows? I may be missing out on something wonderful.


Something that made me laugh out loud this week when I saw it was a picture my kid’s babysitter sent me:


We have a big box of street chalk and she takes Kaysin outside a lot to draw, practice his letters and play games. This particular day, she wanted to teach him how to play hop scotch. I loved seeing him in mid hop scotch mode, with his jammie pants on and sneakers. He looks like he was really concentrating. I can only imagine how long he kept her out there; he loves being outside and would stay out there all day if we let him.

I had to take my physical test this past week and let me tell you, it sucked. It is usually a morning thing, but with rules changing, there is more liberty For individual unit commanders, to make their own rules. So instead of testing at 6 in the morning when running a mile and a half wouldn’t have been so bad, we didn’t start running until about 2:30 in the afternoon. I can run for a while. With the right playlist, I could run 3-4 miles with no problem. But I’m not fast, and as I get older, the run portion of the test is really kicking my butt. I initially was disappointed, but then I told myself, I passed. That’s what matters. If it’s that big of a deal to me, then I need to work on it. Never in a thousand years would I have pictured myself at the weight I am now, and struggling to get my shit together but here I am. I am going to start with healthier food choices. Mentally I know it is going to suck. I crave junk so much, but I think after a few days, I may not be bothered by the cravings at all.


Fall is here and this time more than any other time of the year, I really try and appreciate the moments because I know how quickly time flies. I have been focusing on doing things that make me happy. I am binge watching whatever ghost hunting shows or haunted towns type shows I can find. I’ve been pulling out my journal more. I put my phone away and enjoy a Hallmark film. I come home from a long day, cook and watch Rachael Ray. I take a long bubble bath with my ipad propped up so I can catch up on Youtube videos or listen to my current audio book. I know when I need time to restore myself, and that time is very important. If I’m not good, I probably won’t be good for anyone else.


So, let me know what I new with you. How have you been? Has anything crazy happened since we chatted last?


Sunday Coffee

Happy Sunday Friends, I hope all is well with you. It is September!! I can’t believe it. I live for this time of year. Even though the weather doesn’t change much, I try and squeeze as much as I can out of every moment possible from September 1st until the beginning of January. I am aiming to make these last few months of 2018 amazing.

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To kick off this week, I sprained my ankle. It was about 4 in the morning and I was carrying all my Life (it felt like) to the car to head to work. I had my gear bag, gym bag, water jug and a chair in case I was posted somewhere outside and needed it for my back. Next thing I know, I am face down on the ground and my ankle is throbbing. I called my husband and he came outside to help me up and into the car. Luckily after going to the base hospital,  I learned it was just a sprain but pretty swollen so they gave me quarters for the day and sent me home. This is so easier said than done, but I really need to slow down. If I have to take 2 or 3 trips back into the house then that’s just what I need to do. I am always rushing and trying to knock everything out as quickly as possible that sometimes I just don’t even realize what I’m doing..then stuff like the fall happens. It sucked, my ankle is still a bit sore, but it reminded me to give myself time. I need to start waking up a few minutes earlier, which means going to bed a little bit earlier so I have time if I need to make multiple trips in and out prior to leaving. Seriously, give yourself time Friends.


I got up early to make my way to the coffee shop and sit outside on their patio area to get some reading done. I got there right when it opened and the sun was slowly peeking through the clouds. The cool breeze felt amazing, my latte tasted delicious and the cozy mystery I had in tow was getting to the good parts. It was so nice to just be in the moment, to appreciate the moment for what it was.  I have been hauling cozy mysteries like crazy over the past few months.  Most of the series I own give off such fall vibes so I’ve saved them with the goal to start making my way through them at the beginning of September.  The one I started with is The Hat Shop Mystery series by Jenn McKinlay. The first book is Cloche and Dagger and it is so much fun.


The main character is Scarlett, and at the beginning of the book she has just went through a very public break up. She learned that her boyfriend of two years was actually engaged and there is a video circulating the internet of her crashing his engagement party. Her cousin Viv recommends she fly to London and help her with their Grandmother’s hat shop they inherited. Scarlett decides to go but upon her arrival she is shocked to learn that Viv hasn’t been seen and only days after her arrival in London, a client of Viv’s is found dead, naked, wearing only the hat Viv made for her. It is getting really good. I seriously have no idea who it could’ve been at this point.

We took the kids to a birthday party and they had so much fun. I was nervous because it was a pool party, and to be honest, my kids haven’t had much experience swimming. They did great though! I am so proud of them.  My daughter stayed close to the side but she still managed to play and have a good time. My son Jase got to play and keep up with the other boys and my 2 year old jumped into the 3 ft end a few times on his own. I was a nervous wreck the first time but after that, I just stood there ready to pull him up and he loved it. I seriously think that kid is fearless sometimes. I wish I could be more like him.




I truly hope you all had a wonderful week this week. Make this next one a great one. I have been on Pinterest like crazy saving different fall soups and recipes to try, and I came across a quote I want to share with you.


Have a good day Friends, be Kind to yourself and until next time, xx