Thoughts on ‘Not Feeling Good Enough”

I have been seeing discussions trending lately of content creators throughout the different corners of the online book world discussing their current feeling of ‘not feeling good enough.’ I wanted to chime in and put my thoughts out there. Trust me, been there done that. I don’t claim to have all of the answers but I do want to put my piece out there in hopes that maybe it’ll reach someone who needs it.

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I have gone back and forth with how I wanted to get into this but it all boils down to this: You are completely, totally, 100% good enough to be in this community. The book community, like any other has its star players. It has those who join and within 6 months have sky rocketed higher than you. There are people who have been making YoutUbe videos for years and haven’t reached 2K subscribers but a pretty face chatting about YA will just be shy of their one year mark and already at 10K. This is the reality of the beast and *easier said than done* it’s not something you need to stress yourself over.

There is nothing wrong with you. I had to learn this myself. I did Youtube for 3 years. I’m new to blogging, I’m on Instagram..and I’m not going front like I haven’t had my moments where  I’ve asked myself

  • Is it because I’m black?
  • Do my posts sucks?
  • Is my writing bad?
  • Are my pictures terrible?
  • Is the editing bad?

Been there done that. Refuse to allow myself to drift back into that space again.

No one reads the same book, so your perspective, your interpretation is needed and valued. Voice your opinions. Good and bad. Join in on discussions. those that make you uncomfortable and those you’re passionate about. You are needed. You are good enough, More than good enough.

Representation matters. 100%. Things would be so bland if the only options out there for content viewing, were all creators who looked the same. Whatever you identify as is needed. 100%. Share your perspective. You never know when a discussion becomes a teaching moment, learning moment..for someone else. Be here. You’re needed.

Find your tribe and support each other. I found that when I really began building relationships with people via the online community I stopped giving a single f*ck about  stuff like how fast my channel was growing, how many new followers on IG I gained. What became the most important part was those connections. Those people who were going to be watching regardless of when I posted a video or what it was about. Or those friends on the lookout for my next blog post or photo on Instagram. Those friends rooting for you and who you’re rooting for is what matters. The rest will come with time but you lose focus on the time when you’re too busy connecting with other people. You’ll find that people want you here. Again, you’re 100% good enough. I stopped doing Youtube rather abruptly and I still get messages and comments from friends asking if and when I’m coming back. a big middle finger to the times I didn’t feel good enough.

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It’s crazy for me because I remember growing up before computers and social media were what they are today, so I have to occasionally remind myself to chill out. Life was so simple in the days before wondering if a photo would reach 100 likes or not. Once upon a time I took pictures with. disposable camera and the goal was to get them developed in hopes they’d turn out okay. Now everything we take photos of is weirdly for validation for someone else. We document our lives to share with people near and far.  It is amazing but can also be a total unnecessary stressor. Don’t let it be. When you feel yourself uninspired. Feeling like you’re not good enough, it’s okay to step away for a bit. Re-evaluation as a creator is needed. I think it’s an important way to keep yourself inspired and not overwhelmed.

I could ramble on and on about this topic but trust me, if you’re feeling this way now, you’re not alone. You aren’t the first person to feel this way nor the last. Chat about it with someone but rather than focus on the negative aspects, figure out how to make your next move your best move. You’re creating content about a love of yours, reading. Don’t allow it to have you in your feelings.

I hope this little spill from me helps. I am always a message away if you need to chat.

xo.

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Married Mom of 3. Military girl. Reader. Falling in love with romance novels.

One thought on “Thoughts on ‘Not Feeling Good Enough”

  1. This post made me happy to see! I have a little card that sits next to my computer that says “You are worthy. Whole. And Good. Right now. No proof required.” Sometimes we need a reminder just like this post.

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